It can be done, but it won't be easy.
My kids are 4-1/2... we moved here when they were 2-1/2, opened with one room at 3-1/2... they still cry sometimes, and I leap up to quiet them. I couldn't have had four rooms with them at 3, but something wonderful happens about the time they turn four and it's a LOT easier when you can tell them to go outside and play, or go downstairs and watch a video, and they [usually] sleep through the night
Having family around would have helped a lot. My sister is nearby, but she has three of her own so it's not like I can dump them on her over often. If my mom were still alive they'd go spend the night there a LOT.
It depends a LOT on your layout, your attitude, your energy level, your personality, and your babies. The more separate your space, the better. The more energetic you guys are, the better. Are you there full-time or would your poor wife be all on her own?
Of course, one baby at a time would have been a lot easier on me...
=)
Kk..
YellowSocks said:
It can be done, but it won't be easy.
My kids are 4-1/2... we moved here when they were 2-1/2, opened with one room at 3-1/2... they still cry sometimes, and I leap up to quiet them. I couldn't have had four rooms with them at 3, but something wonderful happens about the time they turn four and it's a LOT easier when you can tell them to go outside and play, or go downstairs and watch a video, and they [usually] sleep through the night
Having family around would have helped a lot. My sister is nearby, but she has three of her own so it's not like I can dump them on her over often. If my mom were still alive they'd go spend the night there a LOT.
It depends a LOT on your layout, your attitude, your energy level, your personality, and your babies. The more separate your space, the better. The more energetic you guys are, the better. Are you there full-time or would your poor wife be all on her own?
Of course, one baby at a time would have been a lot easier on me...
=)
Kk.
You know the saying about good intentions...
Well I don't think anyone could or should ever "plan" on relatives or anyone else helping out. You just set yourself up for a fall that way.
Things change. Situations change. My parents live a couple miles from me now and have NOT helped out in any way form or fashion. When I had the flu they did not jump in and say "Send the kids over so you can deal with guests" or "I will be there to check in guests" nothing, nada, zilch. No "I know you are flat out, we will pick them up today or take them to this appt"
So there are those who are helpful and those who say they will help. Then there is reality, you cannot count on ANYONE FOR ANYTHING. Plan to make it and do it all yourself, if they chip in when needed consider that a BONUS!
Having a baby in confined quarters and running a B&B is definately diff than toddlers, adolescents, tweens or teens. All of them are challenging, as we can both attest. Even our dear innkeeper in CA had a separate VERY LARGE house with cabins and had a difficult time balancing it all.
If a child needs to go to the ER - has happened here, and we are SINGLE PARENTS, one cannot go, one must be here for guests. Just when you need them WITH YOU, they have to stay here and cook breakfast or whatever time it is.
Basically, it is not impossible. But it is, imho, not advisable. You always need a back up plan. WHY DO I ALWAYS SAY THAT AND THEN DO NOT HAVE ONE!! DANG IT.
My back up plans are formed in the middle of crisis.