5 Reasons You Should Smile More as an innkeeper

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5 Reasons You Should Smile More as an innkeeper 

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This experience has made me realize how important smiling is to leadership. It can really does help us better achieve the outcomes we seek. It is important for at least five reasons.

It helps others relax. When you scowl or look too intense, it creates a primal reaction in others. Their defenses go up. They become protective and guarded.
This is the exact opposite of what you want to happen if you are trying to influence them. A smile communicates that you are safe and can be trusted.

It draws people to you. Have you ever noticed how you are attracted to people who smile and laugh a lot? The positive energy is contagious. You instinctively smile in response.
The simple fact is that people naturally want to be around people who are happy. If you want others to follow you, you can start by smiling more.

It enables you to connect. Smiling is one of the best, quickest ways to connect with anyone from any culture. Even if you don’t speak the same language, a smile is universally appreciated.
It opens the door, welcomes people into your world, and communicates acceptance. Even if people are frustrated or angry, a smile can often turn them around. In that moment you forge a connection.

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I have removed these links. Thought better of it, sorry everyone. Picture smiling and unsmiling people...

Do we ONLY smile for the camera? Smile on queue. Only smile when someone is looking? 

If you help me smile I will smile back at you. Just sayin'... sometimes this business sucks! So let's lift each other up.

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There was a study done about photographs. I am sidetracking here for a moment...maybe I can find it. But most people do not believe they look the way they look in photographs. Trust me when I say we pretty much all hate the way we ourselves look in photographs. Well this is how we look, for the most part. When we pose vs real life.

a scowl vs whimsical look...

I have shared this story before...When DH has come home form work with something on his mind and our dog scampers away... He said "I am not angry, why did she do that?" I reply "Because you LOOKED angry" angry

 

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If I'm walking down the street and catch a glimpse of myself in a window I always think, 'what a grump!' And then realize it's me. 

Very thankful I am beyond the age where strangers feel the need to tell me to smile.

My default, I think I've said is 'Potty Mouth (auto filter)y resting face'.

I think I used to look 'pensive' but now it's BRF!

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Right, that is the point, do we only smile when we pose?

There are a few who look nice when they are not posing, they don't have a scowl on their face. I want to be around THOSE people.

 

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Most times...yes...I don't walk around with a smile on my face all the time. But when I see a frowner, I usually put on a smile to acknowledge them and see if they respond. But in a class...nope...no smile.  Though I at least try to look interesteddevil

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I was simply posting images I had seen lately with people who looked unhappy. Not pinpointing anyone, just sharing examples of how we can be perceived. You see that is it isn't it.

I saw someone from this forum who looked cheerful and approachable in every photo, but I won't mention who and OUT THEM to the world, but she is awesome.

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I agree. Perception can be deceiving. I have said to frowners..."Let's see a smile or something like that.." Because the same has been said to me at times and I have to remember that. We all look so much better with a smile Smiling

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Did you see all the POSED ones?  EVERYONE WAS SMILING!  Do you smile as you sit and listen to speakers in workshops? I don't..unless they say something funny. I don't expect to see smiles all the time. That would be strange.

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I did not click the links for the photos but I have seen the album from PAII. It's tough. A lot of those folks had their photos taken unawares. They may have been thinking or itchy or gassy or who knows. And it's a single moment. For all we know they were giggling the moment before.

You want to be around smiling, happy people, yes indeedy! But passionate people are not always smiling.

He really should have taken more photos when the speakers were making the audience laugh. Or did they never laugh?

We really should come away from those meetings reinvigorated with joy, not just with our heads crammed full of the opportunities we're missing because we haven't done x, y or z yet.

 

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