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Not mentioned here before but DHs sister has been seriously ill for a while, but he's had the call this morning to say she's not going to last more than a couple of days at the most. 

Obviously he can go to the funeral and I can keep running the business,  I'd rather be there for him, but it's a two day trip.

It's peak season, we're fully book and so are most others, so what do we do. There's no-one we could get to carry on running the place full steam, I have wondered about getting someone to just house sit and tell the guests there'd be limited breakfast and give them discount. We could close up and try and find somewhere else for bookings, offer to pay the difference?

I wonder if any of you have been in similar situation and what you did? 

 

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Sorry this happened, but so glad you went in quickly. Some people wait and then it can't be repaired.

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What a summer we've had.... as if the car crash and loosing DH's sister wasn't enough I ended up in hospital last week. That's why I've been quiet recently.

I've had problems with my eye since March, optician said it was a posterior vitreous detachment, apparently happens to lots of people as they get older, more so for the short sighted like me. Then I started seeing shadows at the bottom of my vision, ended up in A&E and they kept me in and operated the next morning, retina detachment. Had to lay on my back for 3 days, couldn't do much for a week. Worst possible month in the year for this to happen, poor DH had to do everything.

Had a checkup with the surgeon this week, all healed fine, so I'm back to normal now.

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Yikes! Glad to turned out okay.

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That's awful - hope your eyes are ok as they are so key to your entire life - also hugs to DH as I know how much of a close team you are and how busy your location is - he must be run ragged!

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Doing this alone, these types of stories scare the beejeezus outta me.  So glad you are doing ok now and sorry for your discomfort.

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So happy to hear all is well again. Take care.

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Wow! Glad you are better. That's scary stuff.

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Wow that is scary . Glad to hear you are on the road. But try and take it slowly eye sight is so very important. Good thing it was caught on time. To DH good guy carrying the flag . It good to hear how we support each other when there is a problem . Good job well done.

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opps double post!

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Thank you everyone for your kind words, I took your advice, it has all been sorted.

The funeral is Monday next week, I have a friend who will house sit Monday night and do a light breakfast Tuesday morning. I have a group of 4 in but they are here for 3 nights leaving Tuesday and we had Tuesday blocked as a day off already.

Luckily the people who are checking out Monday morning are regulars and I've emailed and asked if they wouldn't mind an earlier check-out so we can turn their room around for the friend who's staying. They were fine.

So we'll do an earlier breakfast Monday, check two out, give keys the the remaining 4. Dash around and clean as much as possible, off to the airport leaving here at 10, funeral in the afternoon and then fly back Tuesday morning.

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Well I can't believe this all worked. On Monday the regulars checked out by 9am, all the others had gone out for the day by 9.15.

That meant we could clear breakfast, get certain items washed and dried and the tables laid for breakfast on Tuesday morning. We also cleaned the vacated room ready for our friend to use last night.

Was out of here at 10am for a 11.30 flight. Arrived at families house at 1.30 for a 3.30 arrival of the funeral cars.

This morning we caught the 9.30 flight back and was home by 11.30. Spoke to friend who said it all went smoothly. I Gave folks a discount so they were happy, left a bottle of wine and a thank you note in the regulars room to say thanks for agreeing to check out early. So I think everyone was ok.

 

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You did a great job pulling this together under stress.  Glad it all worked out so you could be there for DH when he really needed you.

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Happy to hear it came together.

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That is wonderful-glad it all worked out

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You two are grace under pressure.

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I'm glad things worked out as well as they did.  Things like that do have a way of working out and hopefully you had enough family time while you were gone and can get some rest now that you are home.

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Things happen the way they're supposed to.  Glad it all worked out for you and sorry again for your loss.

 

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So glad you got it sorted out so you could go. We try not to let the inn run us and it makes such a difference about how we feel about what we do.

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I am late in replying- sorry for your loss and glad the accident was not worse. That said-Go with your DH, life happens and in a small business as yours specially because there is only two of you-the guests will either understand or be pissy-like K said-FAMILY FIRST! Guests will come and go-give them a discount if you can, or a gift certificate for breakfast in town, but I am sue that most will understand a family emergency, and that is what this is...

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My deepest condolences. I'm so glad you're ok. Cars can be replaced, but hearts take longer to heal. Take care of yourselves.

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hope you are both ok - its the rush of adrenaline wearing off that adds to the feeling of wretchedness - that you are both in one piece is the most important thing

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Our condolences. Sad news. And on top of a car accident. Your body and mind will ache, try to take it easy for some time, defer and delay. Wishing you the strength to sustain you during this difficult time. 

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so very sorry. i hope you have found someone to watch the place so you can go.  heart

 

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I'm adding my condolences. So sorry. 

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WE are so sorry to hear of your loss.

Hope you can take the time to rest both the soul and the body.

Trying to find a car I know can be hard . Hopefully all will fall into place quickly.

 

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I'm glad you weren't more seriously injured in the accident. It sounds like it could have been much worse.

I'm very sorry for your loss, and that it comes at a time when your business is demanding. Hopefully you and your DH have found someone to run things in some manner so you can both get away.

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very very sorry for your loss

glad you are okay

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This morning was the closest I've ever been to wanting to throw all the guests out and just shut the front door.

Yesterday we went out on one of our regular shopping trips after finishing the rooms, got half way into town and some idiot pulled out in front of us, hit him at 45mph. The car went off onto the bank on the other side of the road, thank heavens it didn't turn over and there was nothing coming the other way. We both got out, but dh hit his head and we both had aches in our ribs. Got taken by ambulance to the hospital and were checked over / had chest x-rays. both ok, just bruised. The car is a write-off. 

And if that wasn't enough this morning whilst we're getting ready for breakfast dh had the call to say his sister passed during the night. 

But we laughed with guests and carried on, now there all gone we both feel wretched.

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Keeping you in our thoughts with an innkeepers' understanding. Very grateful you are not more seriously injured and sorry to hear you had to put on the face at such a difficult time.

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So sorry for you both.  Our thoughts and prayers are with you. 

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There is never a good time to be in an accident...but the timing of this one just adds to your misery.  So sorry to hear of your loss and hope that life will look better soon. heart

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So very sorry. Hugs to both of you.

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I am so sorry for the loss of DH's sister. Please accept our condolences. It is difficult, even when one has had time to prepare.

 

Thankful that neither of you were HURT, just hurting. Cars can be replaced.  Prayers are with you in this time of double turmoil. 

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How scary for you.  I am so glad you were not hurt badly.  And so very, very sorry for your loss.   Hugs.

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So sorry to hear. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.

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OHHHHH NO!!!

So glad you are both ok. My deepest sympathy to both of you. 

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Go if you can, but your partner will understand if it just can't happen. 

Good guests will understand, send them each a nice note giving the set up you have arranged and if you know of a neighboring B&B that has availability share that as well, giving that as an option. 

We have had this issue three times since being in the business, both times were trying but we managed with the help of our adult children.  1st time DH stayed behind while DS and I went for the last days of Mother's life, DH and DD joined us for the funeral.  2nd time DH and I had traveled to see Dad, within an hour after we got home (9hr drive) Dad had passed.  Guests were coming in so DH stayed behind and  DS and I attended funeral.  The other time DD stayed and handled guests while DH and I went to his father's funeral. 

While not all of us could attend we all did the best we could do under the circumstances.  No regrets on how it was handled.   You can have best laid plans but every day is different.  You have been there for your partner and will remain that way and I am sure it is appreciated no matter what the final plan.  heart

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I have been thinking about this and you HJ, and hope you were able to sort it out and do whatever was best in your heart of hearts. This is when innkeeping is very difficult. We love you!

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Late seeing the post, but we hope you sorted it out so you could do what you thought was best.

My DH just lost a brother and we had to sort it out quickly. We were prepared to go across the ocean if needed, but it turned out that several others were going and we could fill a role later that would be more helpful.

Pretty much like you were thinking and others have affirmed, we would have just had someone house sit a couple of nights and discounted the rooms.

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GO.  You won't regret it.

A few years ago my mother (89 yrs old) fell and broke her leg in FL.  She lives alone in her own home and I am the one in charge of her.  So there was no choice for me but to go.  Fortunately my brother volunteered to go with me so DH could man the fort here with a full house.  But if DH had come with me we would have hunted up a housekeeper/sitter, given the guests a voucher to a nearby restaurant for breakfast and hoped that they understood.  

As it turned out, DH sent them out for breakfast and they were all just fine. He's not much of a housekeeper so in hindsight it might have been better to hire someone!   

 

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So sorry, HJ.  I'm inclined to agree with the others who say go to the funeral.  If circumstances don't work out, remember not to beat yourself up.  We love you, and I'm sure your partner will understand.

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If you can get a friend or housesitter, do it. The guests are people you do not know and all you need to do is give them the bed they need and something to call breakfast. Yes, do the discount but do not stress one moment more about it. You and your DH are the important part of this equation. YOU NEED to be there for DH. Period. People come and go - some are nice and some are pissants. Family FIRST.

Condolences to both of you. Bring there for each other is important - that is why you ARE together.

Twice I had to get friends to cover - not funerals (my family timed things better - Mom before we opened and Daddy when we were brand new and not busy. And his siblings did not even tell us about Ma until 3 months AFTER she died) - but for his 40 year class reunion and then when my son got married. The first was a full-house for a football game and never heard from any of them again. The second one refused to do both nights of the package at the other B & B - even when I told them I watched my son being born and I was going to be there to watch him "die" as he got married. No regrets - Family first. I am sorry it is under these circumstances  - go and let everything else sort itself out.

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If you can get the house/guest sitter, then go! I really do think that's better than finding other arrangements for them. My deepest sympathy to you and your DH. I know what a stressful time this can be for both of you.

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I would go with DH or I'd regret not doing so forever to support him.  I just saw how much my sister supported my brother-in-law at the funeral of his Dad last week.  If you can get a house sitter, do so and go.  Since everything is booked up, people will probably be quite happy that you don't cancel them.

If I had to do this, I'd go get $30 gift certificates for my local diner and leave one in each room so they can get breakfast there for each day you'll be gone.  (NO BIG ROOM DISCOUNT, after all you're not canceling on them, just reducing breakfast which isn't worth a 1/2 price discount.)  I'd have the house sitter put out coffee and I'd pre bake some scones and muffins and put out a bowl of fruit and maybe a bowl of ice holding some packaged yogurts.  Those that want to use the GC can and get a full breakfast and those who are fine with the limited choice will be happy too.

Good luck and sorry for your loss.

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I like the idea of the GC for breakfast nearby. We've done that when the power is out here.

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So sorry for you and your DH. Go and support him and the family. If you can get a housesitter, that will be good. At least you won't have to cancel reservations. But a discount would be good for them. As long as they have a bed to sleep in most folks should be very understanding given the situation.

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I say go with him.  Get someone to house sit and give the guest atleast a place to stay. (they can always go somewhere to eat) Prayers for your family.

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So sorry. 

If you can get someone to house sit and do the limited breakfast and give a discount I would go that way. With a head's up most guests understand that life happens.

You want to spend the least time sorting this out as possible.

If someone balks and you know of an opening elsewhere send them there and pick up the difference.

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