When you want to tell a guest to run

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For 3 days I have listened to this guy do nothing but pick on his girlfriend. I have a BIL like this. Run! They don't get better with age.

From tipping her kayak over to picking on her ability to right the kayak again, it went on and on.

At least the guide on the kayak trip told him to not pull that crap again.

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In response to the topic, yes I would (and have) said something. It was an unusual situation with a very young woman (I think she was barely 18) and a jerk of a fiancé. He was the worst guest we ever had and totally obnoxious. He treated her so poorly that I just couldn't take it anymore. She was from another country and confided to me that her mother was very distraught at her (the daughter) being engaged to this man. Before they left, while he was putting their luggage in the car, I pulled her aside and told her to listen to her mother and not to marry him. I probably would not have said anything if she hadn't opened the door to that conversation, but I'm glad I did. I'm not sure what happened but I have no regrets. On the other hand, if it was an older couple who had been together forever, I wouldn't say anything.

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had a guest here a couple of weeks ago...while conversing with her after breakfast the first morning, she mentioned that she had slept on the floor!! WHAT THE....!!!!?????? the floor is slate for crying out loud!! Fortunately, there are lots of pillows, from which she was able to fashion something acceptable (to her, not to me)!

Turns out that her DH 'doesn't sleep well' with her in the bed. Seems that they've been married 40+ years. Methinks too late to run.

Anyway, since they were staying another night, I was of course absolutely appalled...I offered to bring in an air mattress for her...anything to try and make her more comfortable. No, she declined, that would only make him mad. WHAT THE!!!????? I wanted to smack this guy! Furthermore, he wouldn't let her use the hot tub in the room 'because of the smell.' The guy smoked like a stack and the room already reeked like a wet ash tray! 

OMG! I wanted to tell this woman to run! 

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Had a friend stay with her SO and after watching her lady operate wanted to tell her, no scream to her  - -you have a gold digger here! She will bleed you dry. Said nothing (she would not have heard it anyway) and she woke up to the fact about a year and a half later. THEN she married in MA and came here on her honeymoon. Poor lady is a lousy chooser. Repeat only this time a divorce was necessary. We could see it but you know they will not listen.

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my DH doesn't speak and stays locked in the basement - saves all these problems

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Poor S.....

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Joey Camb wrote:

my DH doesn't speak and stays locked in the basement - saves all these problems

Oh, if only I had a basement!  smiley

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Breakfast Diva wrote:

Joey Camb wrote:

my DH doesn't speak and stays locked in the basement - saves all these problems

Oh, if only I had a basement!  smiley

 

I wish! Crawl space so shallow that anyone over 2 years old (only if skinny) could fit.

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It's interesting how we're able to sometimes tell the dynamics in their relationship. I had a couple who would stay with us frequently and then 1 time the wife called to cancel. Husband had moved out. She took the time with me on the phone suddenly thinking I was her relationship counselor! NOT!

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The things we see in such a short period of time. 

We had a DD in a situation like this, mental not physical.  Nothing we said would get through.  Finally she saw the light when recently he went after us. 

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grrr.  past annoying.

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Yesterday I had a pronoun problem.... apparently "she" had children and "I" bought a house. I never heard an inclusive pronoun.

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Jon Sable wrote:

Yesterday I had a pronoun problem.... apparently "she" had children and "I" bought a house. I never heard an inclusive pronoun.

Oh, this one hits home! I put up with it for years with my DH because I knew it was a habit and he didn't really mean to exclude me. Well, after 16 years, I'm trying to break him of the habit. Now, when he says the "I" statements, I mimic it back to him and we laugh. He's getting better at recognizing when he does it.

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