Wedding Preparedness and your property...

Hi everyone. I feel like I need to take a moment and give everyone who hosts weddings at your property something to think about. Let me first say that this is not a post to start a discussion on "right or wrong" or how you feel about "Same Sex Weddings." So please don't take this thread down that path. "I think we are all professional enough here. The world is changing and laws are adjusting to them. I just want for those who host weddings to be prepared for a request for a same sex wedding. As more and more states approve same sex marriages into law you will by law have to be willing to host them. If you choose not to host them, you will be sued and forced to pay big fines. So the reason for this post is not to get people all upset and I hope that it doesn't. The post is for you to make the decision before you say "No" to a requests for a same sex wedding. If you choose not to host them for whatever reason, than that's your right. But you will no longer be able to host any type of weddings at your location. You can not single couples out. So you need to decide what you are going to do when this comes up. I just don't want any of you to end up in court. Its been interesting watching the different states adjust to this. Looks like when another state passes it, there is a flood of weddings. Could be great for business. Just make sure your prepared for it.

From the late 90's until 2012 we used to do 10 to 12, occasionally even more weddings each year. Now we just say No to everybody.
But I have to say if a same sex couple called I would consider making an exception. They were the only wedding groups that were always considerate of the property.
I don't mean to stereotype but our gay clientele is generally cleaner, friendlier and more considerate, on average, than most guests.
Thinking back the same was true for the wedding reception held here. I say receptions because we never had the actual wedding here because of the law.

An Old Tavernkeeper said:

From the late 90's until 2012 we used to do 10 to 12, occasionally even more weddings each year. Now we just say No to everybody.
But I have to say if a same sex couple called I would consider making an exception. They were the only wedding groups that were always considerate of the property.
I don't mean to stereotype but our gay clientele is generally cleaner, friendlier and more considerate, on average, than most guests.
Thinking back the same was true for the wedding reception held here. I say receptions because we never had the actual wedding here because of the law..

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Just curious what sort of law would prohibit wedding ceremonies being held at your place?

Harborfields said:

An Old Tavernkeeper said:

From the late 90's until 2012 we used to do 10 to 12, occasionally even more weddings each year. Now we just say No to everybody.
But I have to say if a same sex couple called I would consider making an exception. They were the only wedding groups that were always considerate of the property.
I don't mean to stereotype but our gay clientele is generally cleaner, friendlier and more considerate, on average, than most guests.
Thinking back the same was true for the wedding reception held here. I say receptions because we never had the actual wedding here because of the law..

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Just curious what sort of law would prohibit wedding ceremonies being held at your place?
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Same sex was legal in Mass. but still not legal in many States. So a wedding there could then have a reception in another State.

I think I am covered as my package says a Methodist minister performs the ceremonies. Both of the ministers have indicated the answer is nyet, nein, no. I am not an officiant. If I do not have a minister, I do not have the wedding package. It is sad that one segment of the population can force what they want on other people. There are many venues available, many businesses who would be more than happy to serve the needs - and I am not just referring to same sex marriage (remember the lawyers who were traveling around to "catch" non-ADA or B & Bs who were unaware of the service animal reg). It is legal blackmail - give me what I want or I will sue you into oblivion.

gillumhouse said:

Harborfields said:

An Old Tavernkeeper said:

From the late 90's until 2012 we used to do 10 to 12, occasionally even more weddings each year. Now we just say No to everybody.
But I have to say if a same sex couple called I would consider making an exception. They were the only wedding groups that were always considerate of the property.
I don't mean to stereotype but our gay clientele is generally cleaner, friendlier and more considerate, on average, than most guests.
Thinking back the same was true for the wedding reception held here. I say receptions because we never had the actual wedding here because of the law..

Click to expand...

Just curious what sort of law would prohibit wedding ceremonies being held at your place?
.

Click to expand...

Same sex was legal in Mass. but still not legal in many States. So a wedding there could then have a reception in another State.
.

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OK, I guess I mis-read Tavernkeeper's post -- I thought they were saying that there was some law that prevented them from holding any weddings at their place, but on a second read it seems that they are referring to same-sex weddings.

Harborfields said:

gillumhouse said:

Harborfields said:

An Old Tavernkeeper said:

From the late 90's until 2012 we used to do 10 to 12, occasionally even more weddings each year. Now we just say No to everybody.
But I have to say if a same sex couple called I would consider making an exception. They were the only wedding groups that were always considerate of the property.
I don't mean to stereotype but our gay clientele is generally cleaner, friendlier and more considerate, on average, than most guests.
Thinking back the same was true for the wedding reception held here. I say receptions because we never had the actual wedding here because of the law..

Click to expand...

Just curious what sort of law would prohibit wedding ceremonies being held at your place?
.

Click to expand...

Same sex was legal in Mass. but still not legal in many States. So a wedding there could then have a reception in another State.
.

Click to expand...

OK, I guess I mis-read Tavernkeeper's post -- I thought they were saying that there was some law that prevented them from holding any weddings at their place, but on a second read it seems that they are referring to same-sex weddings.
.

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Harborfields said:

OK, I guess I mis-read Tavernkeeper's post -- I thought they were saying that there was some law that prevented them from holding any weddings at their place, but on a second read it seems that they are referring to same-sex weddings.

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Sorry been busy getting ready for Thanksgiving and didn't check back.
That is what I meant. Our state did not allow same sex marriages and even now they rarely happen.
But we had several couples that met at the University, married in their home state but then had a reception here so they could celebrate with friends from school.