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Flower
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guest said as we meet them. I might have to leave my father is not doing well. Then said I have breakfast at 800 ok. then later that night she said no I like it at 9 . Then 5 mins later no I think it should be 800 as I might get a call to go home early.... the last night I asked her what time she would like for breakfast this morning. She said 900 At 900 at night she change it to 8 again dad has been put in palliative care.
Might have to leave. So tonight I might find out she changed her mind again. Gosh it so hard when parents are in rough shape. Lucky she is only 4 hours away from home. But if it was me and my dad was really that bad shape I would not have taken a holiday at this time.
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I have to admit that 2 days before we were to leave for a 4 week vacation I got a call from Daddy's friend at 5 PM that Daddy was in intensive care. He had either had a heart attack or a stroke (they were not certain which) but definitely had pneumonia. I walked off the computer room floor saying I was supposed to start vacation in 2 days, I do not know what they are going to want to do about tomorrow, but I am gone. (To this day I do not know how they covered it, but my pay was not shorted.)
Get there (12 hour drive after packing the car for the month and doing what needed done for the trip) and Daddy looks like death warmed over. I sit with him for a while, tell him I have to go get some sleep since I have been up for 2 days. Next day I would have wondered why I rushed, he had improved that much. (I had also cancelled all reservations except Boston because I would NOT be able to get that deal back - through my p-t job had a room at the Back Bay Hilton for $35). 5 days later - he is in a regular room on a regular floor and will not let us take him to his A/C house in Florida, when released he is going to his trailer on the hill in Ohio. He had pneumonia bad enough it almost killed him.
I had packed for the 4 weeks because Daddy was either going to live or he was going to die - nothing I could do either way. Since he was not going to cooperate, I left our itinerary and license plate number with Daddy, kissed him goodbye, and left him in the hospital - his friend took him home. He quit smoking cold-turkey and died in my Library 10 years later.
Her trip may have been pre-paid (as was our week in the schooner - $2600 was a lot in 1986) and I have seen too many calls to the bedside go home, repeat, etc... I understand not cancelling the trip but not the breakfast time dance - THAT is ridiculous.
I would think the confusion about time of breakfast was just stress ...
I was in Florida when I got a call from my sister that dad was in the hospital but no worries, he'll be there maybe a week and then will be going home, no need to move up my return scheduled for two weeks away. Just wanted to let me know, very casual. I hung up the phone. Dad was 89. Thought about it for two minutes. Called back and said I'm coming back to Massachusetts NOW. Had to pay a premium to move up my flight. Went straight to see him and could tell he was leaving us. It took me 1/2 hour to get him to look at me, see that I was there. Cried and cried, told my sister he's failing. Sister in total denial. I called my other sister, my brothers, my children and told them what I thought ... let them decide whether they should hurry over to speak with him. They were confused, eldest sister had said he had fallen, expected to recover fully. Why was I reacting this way?
He 'fell asleep' in two days, passed three days later without waking. Sister was in shock. She's the nurse practitioner, I'm just me, follow my instincts.
Glad I didn't follow her advice - it's hard to know what to do.
I was in Florida when I got a call from my sister that dad was in the hospital but no worries, he'll be there maybe a week and then will be going home, no need to move up my return scheduled for two weeks away. Just wanted to let me know, very casual. I hung up the phone. Dad was 89. Thought about it for two minutes. Called back and said I'm coming back to Massachusetts NOW. Had to pay a premium to move up my flight. Went straight to see him and could tell he was leaving us. It took me 1/2 hour to get him to look at me, see that I was there. Cried and cried, told my sister he's failing. Sister in total denial. I called my other sister, my brothers, my children and told them what I thought ... let them decide whether they should hurry over to speak with him. They were confused, eldest sister had said he had fallen, expected to recover fully. Why was I reacting this way?
He 'fell asleep' in two days, passed three days later without waking. Sister was in shock. She's the nurse practitioner, I'm just me, follow my instincts.
Glad I didn't follow her advice - it's hard to know what to do.
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Well we made it. They left this morning to the next area. A few KM away. She was very weepy today. The tension here was high.
It was a rather hard few day here as our other guest was meeting with a her daughter and things were not going so good..
So now on to a new person and high geared mountain biker. All I can say this will be interesting weekend. this is a full moon plus a long weekend here. This is usually a very busy weekend no rooms available time.
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Maybe they will draw a white line across the bed(s) and room...
