Innmates are a Blessing

I am at Jim's motel in NC. Himself had been doing his usual when I am going out of town - a set-back. Before I left, I moved our car out of the driveway and told him - since he would not let me take him to ER last night - that if he felt worse to call 911 that the car was moved.
I was almost to Jim's when I pulled over to call to see if I was where I should be. Himself had called a couple hours earlier to say he had called 911. Before I could make my call, the phone rang, The ER doctor called to tell me Himself said when he came in that nothing extraordinary was to be done. He had a heart attack and died. I will close on my brother's house tomorrow morning and go home.
The kids are OK with just doing what needs done. He will be cremated after I get home. He could have at least waited until I got home! I held his hand through everything else. I am OK. Just have to do what I have to do.
Update: We are having a Memorial Service April 30 (either Gillum House or the Church had conflicts before then) at the First United Methodist Church in Shinnston at 3 PM (so people can go to Church and still come). Lunch to follow service.
Our friend Tom McKee who does the motorcycle event in July, is going to have a Memorial Service during the event for all the motorcycle people who knew John. He also wants to put John's studio in his museum. As soon as I get all our personal stuff off the "command center" I will call him to get it. It needs to be gone before the kids arrive. He will do that. And when i tried to make a hair appointment for April 29, my hairdresser said 9 AM on April 30 - she is coming in that morning just to do me. I have said I am blessed - I just keep getting reminded of how much I am blessed.

OMG. Are you ok?

Morticia said:

OMG. Are you ok?.

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yes. I will do what I have to do - then I will crash. AT HOME. just talked to my son in Finland - now all the kids know. I am pissed at him that I held his hand through all the other crap but he could not wait for me to come home. He is not hurting any more. No more brace.
I am going to bed. The alarm is set for 5:30 so I can be in Rock Hill by 10.
thank you for asking. It is the drive home - 7 hours that will be rough.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this! Praying for you but glad Jim and Maxine can be there with you during this time.

Hugs and deepest sympathy.

Oh honey wish we were closer so could be more practical help.

WHAT..OMG...I am shocked to say the least.There are no words. Please take care of yourself. I know you want to be strong and you are but you MUST grieve. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the family.

My sincere sympathy. I know you'll miss him. You still have the memories. You'll always have those.

I'm so, so sorry. Love and prayers.

I cannot express in any words Kathleen. I wish I was closer to lend a hand. My heartfelt prayers are being said from this sister of the shiny knees for you and your loved ones today.
We love you K!

So, so sorry to hear this. You have amazing strength, but please allow yourself to grieve (eventually). PS. I'd be pissed too.

Our deepest sympathies. There is nothing more that we can really say, other than the standard wish, may his memory be a blessing.

Oh no! I was not sure what I was reading. I am so very sorry. Email me if there is anything I can do for you.

gillumhouse said:

Morticia said:

OMG. Are you ok?.

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yes. I will do what I have to do - then I will crash. AT HOME. just talked to my son in Finland - now all the kids know. I am pissed at him that I held his hand through all the other crap but he could not wait for me to come home. He is not hurting any more. No more brace.
I am going to bed. The alarm is set for 5:30 so I can be in Rock Hill by 10.
thank you for asking. It is the drive home - 7 hours that will be rough.
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I am so sorry. There is just noting to say that can make things better. Is there anyone you can ask to drive back with you? 7 hours by yourself seems like a lot at a time like this.❤

So very sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.

this morning I realized I was no longer pissed at him. He got to the hospital so I did not have to walk in and find him AND he was not alone. My former City Manager who is a dear friend came when he called and she called 911 for him. Her husband went to ER as soon as he got back to town from playing taxi for his sister-in-law and he was with John when he died. When I got home tonight, he took me over to say goodbye.
The REASON I went was Scottrade told me I had to fill out the paperwork to set up an estate account to liquidate my brother's stocks. It could not be done over the internet/faxes - in person. With the closing being this morning, I was going down to get that taken care of - multi-task It was all I could do to keep from ripping that woman's face off this morning when she told me it could be done by mail. They NEVER mentioned that! I would not have left if they had told me that. The closing could have been done via docu-sign. I went to finish everything up down there in one trip. That company disgusts me. They also required MY financials. I think they set it up as my account rather than the Estate of. I was so bloody angry all I could do was get out of there before I went postal.

I also want to thank all of you for your messages and Jim Boone and his family for putting up with me last night. His motel is VERY nice. The furniture he built is beautiful. They even gave me supper. Thank you all for being my friends. And just so you know - I am OK. We had talked a lot over the last few weeks and I know he was ready and at peace with what was coming. He was no longer afraid - and I think I helped him get to the point he was not afraid any longer.

gillumhouse said:

this morning I realized I was no longer pissed at him. He got to the hospital so I did not have to walk in and find him AND he was not alone. My former City Manager who is a dear friend came when he called and she called 911 for him. Her husband went to ER as soon as he got back to town from playing taxi for his sister-in-law and he was with John when he died. When I got home tonight, he took me over to say goodbye.
The REASON I went was Scottrade told me I had to fill out the paperwork to set up an estate account to liquidate my brother's stocks. It could not be done over the internet/faxes - in person. With the closing being this morning, I was going down to get that taken care of - multi-task It was all I could do to keep from ripping that woman's face off this morning when she told me it could be done by mail. They NEVER mentioned that! I would not have left if they had told me that. The closing could have been done via docu-sign. I went to finish everything up down there in one trip. That company disgusts me. They also required MY financials. I think they set it up as my account rather than the Estate of. I was so bloody angry all I could do was get out of there before I went postal..

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its when people are clearly grieving you do what you can to smooth the way its common sense - these matters are difficult enough.

Oh Kathleen, I am so sorry. Although you have tried to prepare for this moment there is no preparing for the grief when it becomes reality. I suspect Himself waited until you were gone so that you would not have to experience the very end. He was being kind to you, who has stood by him all these years.
My heart breaks for you and your family. Take care and know that others are thinking of you.

gillumhouse said:

I also want to thank all of you for your messages and Jim Boone and his family for putting up with me last night. His motel is VERY nice. The furniture he built is beautiful. They even gave me supper. Thank you all for being my friends. And just so you know - I am OK. We had talked a lot over the last few weeks and I know he was ready and at peace with what was coming. He was no longer afraid - and I think I helped him get to the point he was not afraid any longer..

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I still can't believe this K but I am sure glad to hear someone was with him and could share with you. May he now rest in peace. And hoping you have some time to grieve and take care of YOURSELF now!!!!