When the innkeeper is sick

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So, I have been fighting a neurological disease for 3 weeks now. I'm in constant pain that is not eased with normal 'aspirin-type' meds. I have no symptoms visible to guests. But, I have the attention span of a gnat and zero tolerance for any rannygazoo. I cannot meet and greet guests, can't do breakfast service, no guest-facing, in-person tasks. If I'm out in the inn and someone comes back I have to leave the room. I just cannot focus and I don't want people touching me.

Everyone has been wonderful to Gomez. No one giving him grief because he's running everything himself. I can do meal planning, but I don't have the energy to cook. Gomez has gotten several really good reviews and he's had some wonderful chats with guests while he cooks. We are limiting our reservations right now and only taking 3-4 rooms so he can cope.

I'm ok to do online reservations, answer the phone, stuff like that. Today, tho, we had a caller who 'spoke with someone else last week' about a reservation. Oh, good, they know everything and are just calling back to reserve. Oh, I wish. Caller went on for 20 minutes at which point I was 2 seconds away from just bursting into tears because I was in such pain and this person 'just wanted to go over everything one more time.' For the love of all that is holy, please pick the room in advance, read the room descriptions online, or at the very least LISTEN and write down what I'm telling you 15 times so I can get off the damn phone and lie down.

It's possible I will have this for years to come. Or, it could go away tomorrow. Other than the pain and sleepiness, I've never felt better! All my other aches and pains are gone. Or, possibly, the new pain is stronger. Eye-wink

 

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So sorry you're having to go through this.  Healing thoughts and prayers going out to you today. 

Just got shingle dose #2.  Ouch.  But we do what we gotta do.

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Oh My...pain still there.  This has gone on too long to ignore.  Get yourself to a major medical facility with a neurologist that can get to the bottom of the cause.  I'm assuming your doctor has done the MRI and blood work to rule out the obvious but can refer you to someone who can continue the search for a solution.  Good luck!

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Silverspoon wrote:

Oh My...pain still there.  This has gone on too long to ignore.  Get yourself to a major medical facility with a neurologist that can get to the bottom of the cause.  I'm assuming your doctor has done the MRI and blood work to rule out the obvious but can refer you to someone who can continue the search for a solution.  Good luck!

It's remarkably quotidian - shingles. Apparently the pain can go on for months, possibly years, after the rash is gone. However, the rash isn't gone so I'm still in the throes of the disease itself.

I'll offer up this PSA  - get the damn vaccine! If you had chicken pox as a kid, you have the herpes virus living, albeit dormant, in your spine. All it takes is a trigger, generally stress.

The vaccine is covered by your health care, if you have any, once you're over 60. Prior to that it's pretty pricey, but this event has already cost me thousands in lost revenue and expenses paying for an employee to cover for me.

 

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Shingles is terrible and the harsh symptoms are oddly ignored by society -- my deepest sympathy.  I got vaccine, hope it works for me.  Best wishes.

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Tom wrote:

Shingles is terrible and the harsh symptoms are oddly ignored by society -- my deepest sympathy.  I got vaccine, hope it works for me.  Best wishes.

It needs a sexier name. Then it would get attention. Eye-wink

It's ageism. If the 20 and 30-somethings were suffering like this, there'd be more attention paid.

I can't imagine if I had a real job! I would have had to take a leave of absence, if I was lucky enough to work for a place that offered that.

Gomez got the vaccine, he's been fine. I'd say the vaccine works.

Lots of people I've spoken with say they've had it and commiserate with me. 

My allergy doc today was shocked the pain meds don't work. When I told him what I'd been taking, and the dosages, he said I should have been in la la Land. Or at least not in pain.

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The good News is you know what it is and it’s not any of the horrible things that scare Us all.    

I hopenthat knowing calms some of the stress of worry.    Is there a therapy to calm it down?   

Get well soon! 

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There are prescription meds (none have worked) and there are OTC ointments (work for a couple of days).

It's the open -endedness that's giving me some grief. Some people it's 3 weeks, some people it's years. It's really just wait and see. So there's no therapy for it and the Dr has nothing else to try.

What I might need is mental therapy for 'how to live with chronic pain.' 'Get over it' hasn't helped thus far. Eye-wink

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I have had good luck with Neurontin (gabapentin) for nerve pain for about 25 years now.  I have a serious back problem--herniation, compression fracture, curving this way and that and stenosis.  Not to mention I've shrunk 3 !!! inches.  Yea, taking disability retirement to run a small motel I inherited might have not been the right move. Only eight rooms but very very hard to find help didn't help.

Before that I already had had one of the first and worst tendinitis from computers. And I mean wrist to elbow Non functional hands.  It is so hard to do absolutely nothing. Open doors, turn magazine pages.  Not even be able to tear the top of a Lean Cuisine and eat it. I had the brilliant idea that if I couldn't work I might as well start on a Masters.  Bad mistake.  By the time I wrote class notes I ruined the other hand. Did I mention that driving was out of the question.

So I feel your pain.  Try gabapentin.  I take all at night so I can go to sleep, stay asleep and avoid the unfortunate side effect of making you spacey, stupid.  I call them my "stupid pills".  Which is ok at night. : )

 

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It doesn't work for me. I was up to a quite high mg/day and no mitigation at all. I know people for whom it is a miracle. I got all the side effects and none of the intended effects.

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I have had good luck with Neurontin (gabapentin) for nerve pain for about 25 years now.  I have a serious back problem--herniation, compression fracture, curving this way and that and stenosis.  Not to mention I've shrunk 3 !!! inches.  Yea, taking disability retirement to run a small motel I inherited might have not been the right move. Only eight rooms but very very hard to find help didn't help.

Before that I already had had one of the first and worst tendinitis from computers. And I mean wrist to elbow Non functional hands.  It is so hard to do absolutely nothing. Open doors, turn magazine pages.  Not even be able to tear the top of a Lean Cuisine and eat it. I had the brilliant idea that if I couldn't work I might as well start on a Masters.  Bad mistake.  By the time I wrote class notes I ruined the other hand. Did I mention that driving was out of the question.

So I feel your pain.  Try gabapentin.  I take all at night so I can go to sleep, stay asleep and avoid the unfortunate side effect of making you spacey, stupid.  I call them my "stupid pills".  Which is ok at night. : )

 

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Mean stuff from all I've understood. We took the vaccine, earlier version when it first was available, and yes, quite pricey at the time, have prescriptions on hand for the new and improved version, sounds like we should hurry up and get the shots behind us.

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Yes, get the vaccine.  We both had the early version as well as the recent one. It just does not make sense to risk being disabled and in pain when you can avoid it.  

And Mort, I’ve heard from a relative how debilitating and painful shingles can be.  So very sorry to hear you are experiencing the symptoms without relief.  Hang in there...good, healing thoughts coming your way for an imminent recovery. 

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I sure hope you get to feeling better. It's one thing when you have a job that has disability insurance, but small business owners are just hung out there.

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I sure hope you get to feeling better. It's one thing when you have a job that has disability insurance, but small business owners are just hung out there.

It's now almost 2 months. I still haven't 'gone to work.' Gomez and Lurch have been doing everything. It took me a week to do last weekend's laundry.

I've tried everything the Dr gave me. Nothing works. I'm trying OTC stuff and eye of newt now.

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It may be time for a specialist. Sometimes an obscure issue is just something outside of the local doctor's scope.

I hope you find the problem and that it is an easy one to solve. I will keep you in my prayers.

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Very sorry to hear! Glad you have back up, hopefully you'll be soon recovered.

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  Prayers sent up for you both!  Hope you feel better soon!

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Mort I hope the issue chooses to go away promptly

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Oh my, sorry to hear this.  Hope it is curable and not something that you just have to live with.  Just in case it might help I’ll recommend a test for Lyme disease.  Neurological complications are not uncommon, and down here ticks abound.   

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Not Lyme. Dr checked for that first thing. Good thing, too, my mom suffered from that for years.

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Do not want to be a Debbie Downer but have they checked for Lupus.  I knew about that because my cousin's wife had it. When a friend was not able to find what  the problem was after many tests, I suggested the Lupus check. It was it.

 

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Sweet Morticia, I’m so sorry to hear this.

keeping you in my thoughts ... 

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Luckily there has only been one time I woke up and thought, oh dear this is not good. I had ran myself down after a busy spell but had one single lady that morning to get thru breakfast. I some how managed to feed her without her knowing a thing. Once she exited the Inn I was in the bed within seconds and stayed there all day.

Nothing compared to what you are going thru though.

Thankfully you have Gomez.

All hope you are feeling better very soon.

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Sorry to hear that.

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I’m so sorry!  It sounds so frustrating and pain is so exhausting.   I wish I could help out.   You know you have friends here. And remember the best way to end a conversation in an Inn, “Oh!   Muffins in the oven!   Gotta run!”

 

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Luckily this is not peak season! By next week we'll have days at a time off so that will help.

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Been there as I just wrote in my last post. Though it was not a disease I could not function. I know this will be unsolicited advice, and I know I don't have the whole picture, but if it was not for acupuncture I would not be healed today. Nothing helped except for 3 visits to a master acupuncturist. He has been in practice for 35 years, and 3 other major injuries I got myself into. Just a thought to consider......and why don't they listen when you give them tours of the inn as well and instead call you in the night to ask you something you went over with them?

Be well #selfcare

 

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Acupuncture is one of my options. I am looking into finding someone. Thanks!

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Mort - 3 of the SOSK have asked me to tell you that you are in their prayers.

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gillumhouse wrote:

Mort - 3 of the SOSK have asked me to tell you that you are in their prayers.

Thanks. I know they helped my mom years ago.

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Oh Mort, I am so sorry to hear this. I will ask the SOSK to get on the case. They seem to be on the right wave-length for a lot of things. Trust me, they ARE the heavy hitters.  May you return to your normal self very soon.

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Sorry to hear that! Yes, stronger pains can make the lesser ones seem to disappear. Hope time and the medical community can bring you some relief. Regular life is hard enough without this kind of thing!

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