It is one of my only problems with internet bookings you have no clue who a person is till the arrive on the door step at least if they ring you can try and get a feel for them in advance. Not that that always works we had 6 men come and they all booked separately to get round my settings of not being able to book more than two twin rooms at once (I do this to keep out stag and Hen parties which are nothing but trouble) But one of them rang and seemed nice and when he came was nice and well behaved however 2 of the chaps they brought with them were a nightmare from start to finish. They played loud music in their room which I had to go and tell them off for (I was on my own that night and could have used some back up) they were a bit drunk and then used rude language telling me what they were setting out to do in town. (not language you would use infront of a woman) and I felt very intimidated. Sometime during the night they must have crashed about broke a lamp and smashed the doors of the wardrobe to bits. My mum checked them in and being very nieve took cash When it is men like this I always take a card so I can charge for damage. So I had to charge the group organisers card. I sent him an email saying he should be careful of people he called his friends if they left him stuck with the bill for his damages. I felt threatened in this situation and there was no weapons involved. I think it depends on the situation. It doesn't take a weapon to be dangerous.
It doesn't take a weapon to be dangerous
And there it is in a nutshell. I've been reading this thread carefully. I think it depends on one's own level of safety. What my friend could handle without breaking a sweat, might put me in a rubber room. Everyone is different...everyone's level is a little different.
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Good point. Due to some personal history, extreme anger, hostility, yelling, attacking, accusing etc, make me feel very intimidated and threatened, whereas others may just blow it off as the person behaving this way is just a jerk and so what.
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UPDATE
Discovered today that Mr. Mad immediately went home, signed up on TripAdvisor, apparently read the review guidelines carefully, and left a politely scathing deceitful 2 star review in great detail. For most of it, I was thinking "What? Huh? That never happened... that's not true...." My first less than 5 star review out of 40.
I contacted TA to say that he did threaten to leave a bad review and to please consider removing it, but good luck to me on that. Made a reasoned reply too without calling him a psycho-stalker! And I guess that takes a while to show up.
Also left me a stupid email message and that address is now blocked.
Yikes, must get my head in gear now for my current pleasant guests and two new arrivals. Time to bake some chocolate chip cookies and eat a few too! We usually have a lovely time here with many thankful guests and I think I just need to move on and enjoy that now.
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