Wow you guys have some real horror stories!
I am a small place and do practically everything myself, so scheduling is important to me. I have had a few early arrivals, but nothing that can compare to some of the posts here. I tell guests that check in is between 3 - 6 or later by prior arrangement. Check out is by 11 AM. Between the hours of 11 - 3 we clean. I put a sign on the Inns door that reads "Sorry to have missed you. Innkeeper will return for 3 PM check in." That pretty much takes care of those who arrive prior to 3pm. When they call, I simply explain that we are cleaning. Their room is not ready, but if you would like to leave your cell #, we will call you when it is (95% of the time, we will call them after 3pm) If I stop to answer the door or check someone in "real quick" before 3 oclock, it throws me off and I won't have enought time to finish prior to 3. I just won't answer the door. That sounds awful, but it is necessary..
Every piece of correspondence we send, have available online, verbally communicate to the guest while taking a reservation, etc. all states our check in and check out policy which is identical to yours. Thankfully, the vast majority are pretty good about it. The handful that aren't usually present us with other challenges while here also, so its not that much fun to be gritting your teeth for a guest's entire stay that began hours before it should have.
I don't know how many other folks experience this phenonema, but we'll have the most pleasant, considerate, friendly, well-matched guests here for a week and when they leave it feels like they just got here, the rare other variety will be here two nights and it feels like a month.
We've taken to using the sign and locked front door routine if we're running behind or have any late check outs, but I think some folks just aren't that considerate or appreciative of how much hard work this is to make it look so easy.
They choose most of us because they are impressed with what they see, have read or hear about us and what we have to offer them, but something gets lost in the translation when it comes to to us deserving a minimum of respect on this pretty big issue because they are on "vacation"?
An important thing we all have been taught about being good hosts is that the first impression is really important. How can anybody who regularly pulls this stuff while expecting a top quality experience think that if everybody mirrored their behavior, we innkeepers can possibly stuff our emotions to the bottom of a closet and want to keep doing this for the long haul?
It probably isn't all the hard physical work or long days that drives most out of our business, its the mental strain of dealing with people.
I, like others who've weighed in on this topic don't like the weird feeling of tiptoeing or sneaking around my own house as I clean just so the ultra early arrival who just won't go amuse themselves and come back won't discover me as they peer through any open windows, etc..
We all might just be our own worst enemies at times with our poise under pressure, extraordinary patience with people, diplomacy, etc..
Maybe we need to screw up more often on folks breakfast, cleanliness, assistance, etc. and when asked by a guest or slammed on TA, we could just write responses like, "well, if fewer guests didn't show up unannounced hours before check in starts, or hours after my bedtime, I'd be more on my game"
I don't accept the idea that is a compliment to us when folks think the world revolves around them and our place is SO desirable they can consciously ignore one of the most basic consideration policies to begin a stay here.
We can get our egos stroked in many ways, but that ain't one of them. It's rude, its inconsiderate and is a conscious effort to devalue our hard work.
There are what 5 BILLION cellphones on earth, a payphone on nearly every corner, phones in nearly everyone's homes, the B&B folks stayed at the night before, etc..?
If a two minute call is too much to ask for, what is that telling us what that type of person really thinks of us?
We are so grateful for the 95% who aren't fodder for topics like this.