You are all right and I was way out of line for hitting below the belt like that. I can take my medicine and try harder to be remember we're all in the line of work with most of us facing the same kinds of issues and challenges.
I guess I created my own self-fulfilling prophecy by planting seed for the response I got from GH by my sacrcastic lead in that she needn't pipe in out of inexperience with the issue.
The question I keep coming back to with the handful of members who just can't seem to ever resist the contrarian position to whatever some folks post around here, is "If you can't answer the question, or can't resist the auto-contrarian response, can't you just leave it alone?"
Or maybe weigh in any one of the other thousands of topics open here?.
Tim_Toad_HLB said:
You are all right and I was way out of line for hitting below the belt like that. I can take my medicine and try harder to be remember we're all in the line of work with most of us facing the same kinds of issues and challenges.
I guess I created my own self-fulfilling prophecy by planting seed for the response I got from GH by my sacrcastic lead in that she needn't pipe in out of inexperience with the issue.
The question I keep coming back to with the handful of members who just can't seem to ever resist the contrarian position to whatever some folks post around here, is "If you can't answer the question, or can't resist the auto-contrarian response, can't you just leave it alone?"
Or maybe weigh in any one of the other thousands of topics open here?
Geez....everyone just take a deep breath here. This is supposed to be a "safe" place to vent. Each and everyone of us here has a different way of doing things and each of us has a personality that is reflected in the way we do them. Kathleen is obviously a nurturer and a sweet person. This comes across in the way she handles situations. IF she is content with the results of her guest handling, then great! This is not a character flaw, it's her way of handling it.
IF, however, she's not happy with the situation, then it would help everyone here, especially those wanting help, if some of you would quit being so thin skinned and attacking anyone who critsizes one of the beloved of the forum. Maybe Tim did not express himself the way you think he should, but you create a hostile environment so that everyone is afraid to say anything.
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I've been trying to stay out of this fray but Proud Texan has a point. I'm not saying that what Tim did was right. I think it crossed the line when he went into her online calendar and also when he knowingly posted material with porn links on the site. Swirt is also correct that he seems to delight in baiting people for a fight.
However, this forum gang mentality is also quite obvious and especially with regard to men. I know of several examples of men who tried to post on here and were criticized for misspelled words and poor grammar. Don't make me cut and paste again, but you remember who I'm referring to. So, I think both sides need to take a step back and look at their behavior.
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Well, of 28 responses to THE topic and question, we've had a total of three answers and a whole lot of other stuff. That is the only reason I'm even taking a second look at this thread.
The irony of being told to stick to the topics, play nice but be ready for anything no matter how insulting it might be by any other poster and don't push back has not been lost on me.
"I think it crossed the line when he went into her online calendar and also when he knowingly posted material with porn links on the site."
I had no idea what all was on that website. It was mocking TA and I didn't see all the porn stuff until after revisiting it a second time after posting the link here. To her credit, at least she has revealed all of her contact info which in my opinion adds to her credibility immensely on topic related issues.
Actually, it was after her claim on another thread that she is the "busiest she's ever been" that piqued my curiosity in this sour economy as what that meant. If the insult and name calling hadn't come, I'd have just waited patiently until any legitimate answers to my topic question came in.
"Swirt is also correct that he seems to delight in baiting people for a fight."
I reiterate the question posed in my second response, if we're all supposed to respect each other and we all know some of us have sensitivity to certain issues, where is the admonishment for the lack of restraint of the name calling poster, who not only didn't answer the question, but felt the need to throw out an insult, question my career choice like others now also have and "blame the innkeeper" so to speak?
If some regulars are so experienced with how these threads can go off kilter, and some of us are new and finding our way and what the limits and protocols are, wouldn't just begging off a topic a person has no intention of providing an answer for be more prudent?
"However, this forum gang mentality is also quite obvious and especially with regard to men."
You mean like the unsolicited, mass critique of my website the day I joined after being dumb enough to think I didn't need to select "remain incognito" when joining. A website that while home-made and not done by a more technically proficient method, works for us, gets complimented and attributed for the helping make the decision to stay with us regularly by guests.
The couple of former posters and current lurkers who took the time to look me up and email their take on things and offer moral support seem to confirm your statement and they have no vested interest in anything around here.
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