I'm with you. I am now one of 'those people'- the kind who travel with their own pillow. I hate not being able to sleep on vacation because the pillows are too whatever.I have never found a pillow for myself I can hack. I actually buy them and test them out and then they go to the guest rooms. I need to scrunch them up, can't have them hard like memory foam, but not too soft like down. I am a maniac about pillows, I spend more money on pillows... The whole wheat or grain thing and the rustling sound makes my skin crawl. If anyone has a recommended pillow they swear by please share!
I have found, like you, some discontinued that work well in guest rooms, the laura ashley seem to pull apart and segment and get all lumpy..