We just had a wedding group this weekend and I agree that these groups need to rent the entire house. A group like this is just so much noisier than a house full of separate couples. And the issues
Family dynamics, attitudes, former tiffs and what-have-you throw a whole new spin on the house. I was telling DW we should collect a $500 non-refundable deposit for wedding groups because of the extra use, abuse and attention these groups demand but she doesn't think that would fly....
We get asked about weddings frequently here and that is the answer: "You must rent all 9 rooms for a minimum of two nights, maximum of 20 people in the house, and there is a $1500 fee for hosting the wedding here." That's usually enough to scare 'em away. There are places here though that specialize in weddings and I am happy to refer to them. We will be full for those spring/summer/fall weekends anyway, so I don't know why we'd want the added extra stress of these logistics.
If/when we ever WOULD decide to host weddings, I would still insist they take the whole house, and add a non-refundable deposit, your time/energy/attention are definitely worth it.
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