Think that's a good choice.Just follow their lead and be kind as you usually would..
Don't feel guilty. I would not have done anything or said anything ahead of time. You don't know her and you owe her nothing other than your regular kindness to guests.OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that..
OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that..
Don't feel guilty. You never claimed to be or signed on to be a professional therapist. The situations you describe call for efforts above and beyond the call of duty and, as you say, you're not good at that. You shouldn't be expected to be. Do what you feel comfortable with, and don't worry about it more than that.Madeleine said:I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that.
OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that..
Isn't this what bartenders are for!Madeleine said:OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that.
OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that..Don't feel guilty. You never claimed to be or signed on to be a professional therapist. The situations you describe call for efforts above and beyond the call of duty and, as you say, you're not good at that. You shouldn't be expected to be. Do what you feel comfortable with, and don't worry about it more than that.Madeleine said:I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that.
Signed,
Arkansawyer
Not A Professional Therapist
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In person may be different than before arriving.Don't feel guilty. I would not have done anything or said anything ahead of time. You don't know her and you owe her nothing other than your regular kindness to guests.OK, so now the grinch in me comes out. I thought I would do something very small, maybe a vase of flowers with a note from us. Something to say we are not cold-hearted, unfeeling robots.
Then the emails started. This person is not coming for another 4 months and I've gotten 2 'chatty' type emails since last night. I know how the spouse died. How long ago. Where they were married, for how long. Where they went on the honeymoon, how many kids they have. I am not denying the need to talk about these things. But...
I had a guest who called me almost daily when the spouse was dying and after the death. I am not good at this. I started screening my calls. I felt guilty for doing that..
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