We've seen it here, too. One family of all adults (siblings, in laws) refused to stay out of the kitchen. One went so far, when I was in the kitchen, as to put her toes exactly on the 'line' between the different flooring types and mock me, "I'm not IN your kitchen." Then she thrust a bag of food at me and said, "if I can't cook this then you have to." That still has the power to rile me 8 years later.
Others have totally cleaned up after themselves if we only just give them a trash bag to do so. Easy peasy.
Some you don't even know are in the house..
Sounds like the Dutch doors are for you. Then you can control access while still letting people see your personal cooking show. Once we have SOMEplace, that is on my mind.
Man, this place is SO educational. After a few months, feel like it is Tony Robbins Personal Power course... for innkeeper wannabes
As for the attitudes, only so much you can do. I tend to feel sorry for people with such comments.
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