I remember the PO here telling me...they were eating dinner and a couple was practically drooling over them. ...so they invited them to join in...MISTAKE!!!Giving those little extras....
I know why one does this........I do it.
However......people take them in many ways......some don't notice......some might notice.......not to many think it's something extra, most take the impression it is standard....few, would even identify it as a nice gesture
How people view these nice extras depends on how it is given...
If you do give.................tell them.........I know it may seem petty of you to be telling them....or you maybe seen in the light of pushing for a tip........who cares what they think in their own mind...........always make a point to tell them that you are giving them this or that....which is above and beyond of what the business arrangement is.
Also.........remember the bottom line is what you are working for........not to give it away........bills have to paid.........repairs and upkeep has to be maintained......profit for the future has to be established.
We all have those gut feelings as to who you want to do something nice for.....and for those that would appreciate it.
I am in no way saying not to do nice things.........just avoid the problem of it being expected all the time.
Then every time after that the first thing they asked when they arrived "what's for dinner?" WHAT THE?????? She is such a lovely sweet southern belle that of course she couldn't say "you aren't invited" so for 5 years they were stuck serving them dinner.
She told me she got caught in a similar trap with other...because she did something out of the ordinary the first time and had to keep doing it. Warned me...Don't do what I did.
SO yes, it is a gut feeling when we want to go out of the way for someone..but just don't let it come back to bite you.