I want to hear from other single (preferably female) innkeepers that have to deal with the constant barrage of personal questions from guests. It starts the second they walk in the door. Everything from where I'm from to if I'm single to what I do in my off time (haha!). The list goes on and on. There must be something about my manner that tells these people it's ok to ask these types of questions - I try to get through my spiel, be professional, avoid some questions (especially if I'm still answering a prior one), but still...they continue on. I am seriously at my wit's end with this crap this year. I think the majority of people are just trying to be social, and show an interest...this is the South after all, and they think you have all the time in the world to chat with them. But this isn't chatting - it's intrusive, nosy, and just...exhausting! Is it because there is only one of me? Is it different for those that answer the door with your partner? Is it different for male innkeepers?
I need to know how to put a stop to it without just saying "I prefer not to answer that" or the Ann Landers suggestion "Why do you want to know?". I feel both of these are rude, but then...if I'm not direct with putting an end to it, I don't think it will stop. I do enough freaking talking about the town, the house, the history, the breakfast, places to eat...all that. To have to talk even MORE, especially when it's a question of a personal nature is really taxing me this season. I lost my cleaning help, am busier than I've ever been, and am anxiously awaiting any interest in the sale of this inn. So I am completely burned out and the season has just started.
I welcome any advice, but let's be realistic. I don't think any of us can easily say "no" in any situation - this is no different. I don't want to be rude...but I don't want to slit their throats in their sleep either!
I need to know how to put a stop to it without just saying "I prefer not to answer that" or the Ann Landers suggestion "Why do you want to know?". I feel both of these are rude, but then...if I'm not direct with putting an end to it, I don't think it will stop. I do enough freaking talking about the town, the house, the history, the breakfast, places to eat...all that. To have to talk even MORE, especially when it's a question of a personal nature is really taxing me this season. I lost my cleaning help, am busier than I've ever been, and am anxiously awaiting any interest in the sale of this inn. So I am completely burned out and the season has just started.
I welcome any advice, but let's be realistic. I don't think any of us can easily say "no" in any situation - this is no different. I don't want to be rude...but I don't want to slit their throats in their sleep either!