Morticia
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Haven't shared this far and wide even tho I know some of you do know about it. But, the topic of burnout made me think it might be a good time to share. What happens when you're going along doing your happy little innkeeper thing is life. My mom has been in the hospital for the past 2 weeks recovering from major surgery. First there was the worry about the surgery itself, then the worry when she didn't come around in quite record speed.
The drs said 5-6 days recovery in the hospital. She's been there 14 days today, had 2 setbacks and an additional surgery.
What's a daughter to do? I've driven 600 miles twice in the past 2 weeks to be with her. I call the hospital everyday and talk to the nursing staff, I call the dr's offices to find out what's next. Who runs the inn? Gomez. Can Gomez do it all himself? No way. So what happens is we block rooms. Mom will never read this so here what happens when we block rooms- we lose money. What happens when we lose money? We don't go visit my daughter who just moved to CA the day after mom's surgery.
Daughter moving to CA when I'm worried about my mother surviving major surgery means I did not get to say goodbye to daughter and grandkids in person. That's another 800 mile trip I just couldn't squeeze in the time frame allotted.
Guess what piles up besides laundry & dust bunnies? Guilt.
So, burnout doesn't just come from strangers in the house, it comes from strangers in the house when you have to be elsewhere but you've promised these folks a place to stay. (YES, the exact same folks who will yell at you when they want to cancel because someone stubbed a toe in their family!) Que sera, sera.
And I know my worrying about my mom's surgery is minor compared with innkeepers whose parents and other family members have died with a full house wanting breakfast. But, like everything else in life, it's major when it's happening to you and you can't do anything about it.
PS- She just called while I was typing this and she's going home tomorrow. Hallelujah!
The drs said 5-6 days recovery in the hospital. She's been there 14 days today, had 2 setbacks and an additional surgery.
What's a daughter to do? I've driven 600 miles twice in the past 2 weeks to be with her. I call the hospital everyday and talk to the nursing staff, I call the dr's offices to find out what's next. Who runs the inn? Gomez. Can Gomez do it all himself? No way. So what happens is we block rooms. Mom will never read this so here what happens when we block rooms- we lose money. What happens when we lose money? We don't go visit my daughter who just moved to CA the day after mom's surgery.
Daughter moving to CA when I'm worried about my mother surviving major surgery means I did not get to say goodbye to daughter and grandkids in person. That's another 800 mile trip I just couldn't squeeze in the time frame allotted.
Guess what piles up besides laundry & dust bunnies? Guilt.
So, burnout doesn't just come from strangers in the house, it comes from strangers in the house when you have to be elsewhere but you've promised these folks a place to stay. (YES, the exact same folks who will yell at you when they want to cancel because someone stubbed a toe in their family!) Que sera, sera.
And I know my worrying about my mom's surgery is minor compared with innkeepers whose parents and other family members have died with a full house wanting breakfast. But, like everything else in life, it's major when it's happening to you and you can't do anything about it.
PS- She just called while I was typing this and she's going home tomorrow. Hallelujah!